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Jun 30, 2010

What Not to Say (6)

What Not to Say during a Fight with Your Beloved


1.Don’t say: “You always” or “You never” or “You’re a [slob, jerk]” or “You’re wrong.”
Why: Speaking in absolutes like “you always” and “you’re wrong” is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse.

Instead say: “I’m upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?” Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.

2.Don’t say: “If you really loved me, you would...”
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he’ll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you’ll be. Controlling your partner by begging him to do something isn’t a good way to build intimacy.

Instead say: “I feel taken for granted when you don’t help around the house. I would feel better if we could…” The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you’re upset and then offer a solution
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Source: realsimple.com & google

5 komentar:

Yen June 30, 2010  

a very good tip of choosing the right words. nice entry:-)

FB July 01, 2010  

I will remember that.. good tips

Edwin's Personal Blog July 01, 2010  

we need to be imaginative and creative to find appropriate words to keep the harmony with our spouse..

Blog Ekspor Impor July 01, 2010  

somehow someone has his/her dignity. an empathy to each other is really needed

oriflame July 01, 2010  

So wise, but when we are in anger it's so hard to do that. :D

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