Apr 28, 2010

How to Deal with Criticism

Dealing with criticism is something that we all have to face. One of the toughest challenges when going after a dream is to have people laugh at you. Has this ever happened to you? I found a good article, written by Kevin Ngo. Hope it can help us a lot.

Dealing with criticism is a lot easier when people who you don't really care about tell you stuff like this, but when you have people who should be supporting you say those things, it can really be a huge blow to your confidence.

Well, that's life. For some people, they will give up even before they get started because they take their critic's opinions to be the truth.

Why People Criticize
There are a couple of reasons why people would even criticize your dreams. The first reason is because they don't want to see you get disappointed which really just means they don’t believe you can do it. The second reason is because they don’t want to be left behind so subconsciously, they want you the fail. The third reason is because… they really do want you to fail. So how do you deal with people who tell you that you will not and cannot succeed in reaching your goals?

The worst time to have someone criticize your dreams is when you are in the middle of a setback. Why? Because you are more open to actually believe what they are saying to you. These are those moments when your confidence is usually at its lowest so dealing with criticism is the toughest during these times. Add to that the "I told you so" of critics and you have the ingredients for the perfect dream killer.

Whether or not you will achieve your goals will largely depend on how well you can hold onto the belief you have in yourself when times are tough. This is why it helps tremendously to surround yourself with people who will encourage you during these times.

Opinions Are Just OpinionsWhen dealing with criticism, you must realize that people's opinions of you are just that, opinions. Just because someone tells you they don’t think you will ever amount to anything, it doesn't mean they are right. You must develop unshakable confidence and belief in yourself. There are tons of successful people who have been told they are a piece of crap their whole lives. You must learn to either ignore those opinions or use it to work even harder and give you more reason to not give up.

It's only when you start to doubt yourself and believe what they say, will their opinion of you start to shape your reality. Don't let this happen. Don't give them the satisfaction of being right.

What Do They Know?There was a story of a boy who had a project where he had to draw a future house. He ended up drawing a ranch. When the teacher saw his drawing, she told him that he had to redo it because it was ridiculous to think that a boy from a poor family like him would ever become successful enough to own a ranch. He never redid the project. He turned it in as it was because that was his dream. She gave him an F for it.
Years later, he invited that teacher and her current students on a field trip. The field trip was to his beautiful ranch. When the teacher saw how successful he had become, she apologized to him and wondered just how many kids' dreams she may have destroyed because she taught she could predict someone's future just by looking at their current conditions.

The Future is Still UnwrittenWho you are today has little to do with who you can become in the future because you can decide to take actions today that will lead you down an entirely different path than you were previously heading. Don't let other people's opinion of you make you doubt yourself because if you do, you are letting them control your fate. The decisions you make and actions you take is what will determine whether or not your dreams will become a reality.

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